Date Diagnosis – Week Two

Wrapped up week two with six dates (five if I don’t count the one where I paid for my dinner). Here’s a list of things I learned.

1.) THIS IS EXHAUSTING. I’m physically and emotionally drained. Let me take you on a tour of my daily life. I wake up and spend 9 hours at work. During work I try to find time for the occasional right swipe and a witty response to a text. As soon as I leave work, I drive to a date or  to my house to switch clothes for a date. Everyday reliving the same conversations. I’m trying to keep in mind that I only committed to a month of dating. JUST ONE MONTH. I can do it. I have to do it. I have to give the people what they want.

2.) For me at least, statistically, 1 out of every 7 guys I date I’m actually interested in. Which means, I have to go on six “okay” dates in order for me to go on one great one. I would say, the odds are not in my favor. I’ve noticed that the men I’m interested in are the ones where I initiate either the messages or the date itself. However, it’s easier for me to make plans with men who are proactive about actually meeting me. But for some reason, those are the men I’m not necessarily feeling. At this point, I’m unsure of how this experiment will end. Will I be in a relationship? Will I go on 31 first dates with 31 different men? At this point, I’ve had no second dates.

3.) I’m trying to keep in mind that I AM open minded. I set out on this social dating experiment to learn about dating. I want to give guys who I wouldn’t normally go for a chance. I’ve learned that I can’t judge a book by it’s cover, and to not make assumptions on how a person will come across in real life based on their personality over messages. Preferably, I would like to meet these boys in person before going on dates. But, I’ve also learned that boys are much more willing to ask a girl out over message than face to face.

Dating App Update: I deleted Happn this week. I never opened it. The layout sucks and I don’t have time to scroll through hundreds of profiles. Seemed like a waste of perfectly good iPhone storage space (and we all know how precious that is). Coincidentally one of my dates this week mentioned the dating app Hinge. From his perspective, Bumble is the new Tinder, and now Hinge is the new Bumble. So I thought, why not give it a try? More learning.

News: My initial plan was to go on a date every night, consecutively. I’ve since revised this. One night this week, I NEEDED a break. Not because I couldn’t go out with someone, but I didn’t want to. I went on 8 dates last week, so I figured it evens out. New Goal – 31 dates in 31 days. I don’t have to go on a date every night. I just need to go on 31 dates in 31 days. I can have two dates on one day and no dates on another day. The principle is still the same.

*I haven’t hit the gym since Operation: No Pay May began. I’m noticing a little less definition in my arms. If I gain weight and don’t get a boyfriend, I’m never dating again.

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