Operation No Pay May: Underway

The initial plan was to begin Operation: No Pay May on May 1, 2016.  Due to unexpected situations, my first date will be on April 24, 2016. Let me explain why….

I downloaded six different dating apps in the span of six days. On Monday, April 18, 2016, Houston was hit with a  flash flood. It left many Houstonians with damaged houses, flooded cars and no work. This is the day I decided to download 4 dating apps. What else are you supposed to do when you’re stuck in your house with a bottle of wine and a pending mission? Because I know nothing about dating apps or online dating, I clearly jumped the gun by downloading these apps two weeks ahead of schedule. The day after I downloaded these apps, boys were asking me out. I quickly learned that boys don’t want to wait two weeks to meet up. By the end of the week, I had a date set up for Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday. I figured Operation: No Pay May might as well start in April. Below is a diagnosis of each app I downloaded last week.

Dating App Diagnosis

Tinder – Downloaded Monday, April 18, 2016. From a social perspective, Tinder’s reputation is negative. As in, most of my friends believe Tinder is only used for hook ups. After a week of swiping right, I had 50 matches and 3 planned dates.  On Tinder, I do none of the initial texts, mostly because I don’t have to. Out of the 50 matches, 20 of them messaged me first and three initiated plans.

Bumble – Downloaded Monday, April 18, 2016. Word on the street is Bumble is the dating app. Apparently, girls having to message boys first translates into dates and not hookups. From my first weeks’ experience, Bumble is WORK. I have to initiate conversation in 24 hours or the matches disappear. I would match 8 boys in one night and have to message them all within 24 hours. What normal girl has time for that? It’s exhausting. Boys seem to be more into messaging than meeting up on Bumble. By the end of the first week, I was constantly messaging 10 boys who never initiated plans.

Coffee Meets Bagel – Downloaded Monday, April 18, 2016. At the end of week one, Coffee Meets Bagel won me over. It’s simple. You get 5 “bagels” to choose from everyday (aka profiles).  If you both like each other, you can start a conversation with a week time limit. From my weeks’ experience, the Coffee Meets Bagel boys are looking for relationships. By the end of the week, I had fewer matches, fewer messages, but more dates than any other app.

Happn – Downloaded Monday, April 18, 2016. Happn is a GPS dating app. Profiles will show up on your feed if you physically cross paths with that person. It’s a little creepy. I’m not a fan of the set up. Tinder, Bumble, and Coffee Meets Bagel force you to focus on one profile at a time. Happn is not this way. Throughout the week, I used Happn only a handful of times due to the setup. At the end of the week, I was messaging two guys.

Ok Cupid – Downloaded Saturday, April 23, 2016. I downloaded OKC Coffee Meets Bagelout of pure curiosity. My friend mentioned to me that OKC was for relationships. Since I’m basically an online dater investigator, I decided to give it a try. MISTAKE. OKC is by far my least favorite. OKC allows anyone (and I mean anyone) to message you. You don’t have to view their profile, you don’t have to match with them, you don’t have to do anything. The problem with this is… in one day of being on OKC, I had over 300 likes and 60 messages. Who on this planet has time to go through 300 peoples’ profiles and scroll through 60 messages. OKC does allow you to filter for specifics, but those people get lost in between the non consensuals. I will probably never go on a date using OKC. I regret ever downloading it.

The Grade – Downloaded Saturday, April 23, 2016. I downloaded The Grade to spite my OKC experience. The Grade is supposed to be “better quality”. As in, you have a say in everything, ie. who you look at, who can message you, etc. Plus, you’re allowed to “grade” each person you match or message with. The grading is supposed to notify other individuals that this person is quality. In theory this could work, but in reality there are fewer people on the app and fewer quality people. Since I downloaded it yesterday, nothing has come of it.

First Week Takeaways: This is going to be much more work than I anticipated. Keeping up the matching and messaging long enough for boys to initiate plans is time consuming. I’m messaging boys all day, everyday.

*I’m planning on writing a series called “Date Diagnosis” about dating apps, trends in profiles, contrasts and comparisons, etc. throughout this month. Be on the lookout for these posts. They will be woven in between my Date Diaries.